Purity of Intent and Wasteful Marriages

(In wasteful marriages father and  son will shift the blame to the other one). This is not a matter between father and son - it is a matter of truth and falsehood. (Some of the guests attend these marriages in spite of the fact that it is not permissible to participate in objectionable (Munkar) activities. If this is pointed out to them then they react in the following manner). Sir if we do not attend these marriages then what will people say? It is clear that purity of intent (Ikhlas) has gone out. (They are attending the marriage to please people and not Allah (SWT).) To travel for long distances for just a one feast is also not permissible. Whatever expenditures will be incurred on that - how will that be accounted for (on the Day of Judgement)? Even Maulana Rabey Nadwi Sahab (DB) have agreed with these points. It pleases the heart a lot when someone concurs with you. Any one attending a marriage party with out purity of intent enters like a thief and leaves like a bandit.

(Sitting (Majlis) on Friday, May11, 2012)

Marriage Party vs Army

Today this objectionable (Munkar) thing (large number of people being invited for marriage procession) is becoming very common. Marriage procession (Baraat) means an army. This disease is spreading even amongst religiously oriented people. Cards are printed. (This is unwarranted expenditure). (And if it is pointed out that there were excessive number of people in the marriage procession and party then they provide excuses like ) - actually I invited only ten people but some how it got increased to twenty, what can I do?

(Sitting (Majlis) on Friday, May11, 2012)